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Judy Lair is a licensed counselor and owner of Counselorplace Christian Counseling. She is the author of “From the Other Side of the Couch: A Biblical Counselor’s Guide to Relational Living.” Judy’s personal struggles with fear led her through the valley of hurt and sorrow. She now embraces a joy-filled life grounded in God’s truth and freedom in Christ. Judy uses her professional counseling expertise to tell stories that help people find healing and freedom. Her vulnerable, godly approach helps people find courage to move from Fear to Freedom. For more information or speaking requests, email JudyLair@counselorplace.com or sign up for blog posts at http://judylair.blogspot.com

 “Freedom is attainable. Trust me, I’ve been on the anxiety side, gone through the Valley of the Shadow of Death, and now I’m praising God, eating at the banqueting table, and helping others make the same journey. Whether you find yourself stuck in anxiety, disappointment, grief, or confusion, your heart can be set free.” Judy Lair, “From the Other Side of the Couch.”

Sunday, March 15, 2015

Focus on Mindset Rather than Matter

Recently I was interviewed for a blog entitled, Law of Attraction Network regarding the change in my mindset as I've worked to lose weight. I enjoyed the opportunity to stop and reflect on not only the changes I've made in my diet and lifestyle, but how I now look at myself and my health goals differently. You can read the interview here.

Most of my adult life I struggled with trying to lose weight. Disgusted with how I felt and looked, I'd vow to change. Full of energy, I'd start a new diet or gym, but couldn't persevere long enough to experience significant change. Then I'd accuse myself of being lazy, unmotivated, stupid, etc. As long as I agreed with those labels, I couldn't hear from God about how he loved me and wanted me to love myself.

While sitting on the other side of the counseling couch, God convicted me of bearing false witness against myself and I confessed my inability to see myself through God's eyes. That confession allowed me to humble myself and God spoke truth through his Word and others. My change in mindset came about as I received and believed in truth, giving me the energy and focus I needed to make healthy changes and lose 70 pounds.

In what areas do you struggle? Maybe God is calling you to learn how to better love yourself too.